這兩個星期來都在忙學校考試的事情，跟阿嬤說過，她總是回答：「挖災挖災，沒關係。」
弟弟出國去波蘭前，有和舅舅去看她。那時她意識還清楚，會笑。
考完試後星期六晚上，有個已經答應的尾牙要去幫忙。帶了朋友們去幫忙，所以還沒有去看阿嬤。
星期日早上要飛加拿大前，去看了阿嬤，剛好接到醫院病危通知。到的時候，我看見她已經失去意識，心跳也很慢，曾經一度到零bpm。眼睛微張，可說是只剩下呼吸。
爸媽如何在她耳邊叫她，她都沒有反應。
大家輪流跟阿嬤說了話，媽說：「媽，妳病都好了，都不會痛了。」
又說：「阿密陀佛來接妳，妳就對祂走。」
後來輪到我到她耳邊說話。
說完後，阿嬤雖沒反應，但她流淚了。
看到她的樣子，我很難過，不過我沒在她面前哭，在她的面前，我哭不出來，我不想讓她對大家留戀。人都會有走的時候，沒關係。
最後一次看完她還有呼吸後，我出來病房外，失控的大哭了。還好家綺有安慰我。她幫了我好多忙，謝謝妳。
自己好沒用，26歲卻沒讓阿嬤享到我該給她的。雖然我長大後和阿嬤在一起的時間不長，但還是有個牽絆。
還好我有到醫院陪過她，還好我有在她最後一次出院時去看她，也還好有煮飯給她吃，還好我有告訴她我會成為獸醫師，還好弟弟剛好回來有見到她。
聽說 . . .
阿嬤那天是在等我，所以才會我到後說完話不久，就走了。
阿嬤，我永遠都是妳的孫，能當妳的孫子我很幸福，謝謝妳。
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My grandma passed away at the age of 85 last morning.
For the last two weeks, I had been busy with school's final exams. Even though I'd told about it, she always answered, "I know. I know. Don't worry about me too much."
Before my brother went to Poland, he had a chance to go see grandma with my uncle. At the time, she still had clear conscious. She talked energetically with them.
I had promised to help an annual party (year end party) on Saturday night. I brought my friends with me, so I didn't have a chance to go see grandma on Saturday.
Before I fly to Canada on Sunday the next day, I took a detour to go see her and on the same morning, my parents received a call from hospital about my grandma's condition. When we arrived, my grandma had no consciousness and her bpm reached 0 several times with really weak breath. Her eyes were barely open.
No matter how many times my parents called her, she had no reaction.
Everyone took his/her tern to talk to grandma. My mom told her, "mom, your illness has gone away already; you are fully healed and you suffer no more pain."
She added, "When Namo Amitabha comes, go with Amitabha."
Then it was my turn to speak at her ear.
After I spoke to her, though she had no reaction, she teared.
Seeing her makes me really depressed. Nevertheless, I didn't and couldn't cry in front of her, because I didn't want her to leave worryingly. Everyone has his/her time.
That was the last time to see her alive breathing. I walked outside and leaned against a wall. I lost it, a complete break down. Thankfully, Tanya was there. Thank you.
I feel so useless; I couldn't give what should be given to her at the age of 26. Though I didn't spend much time with her, we still have a strong bond.
Fortunately, I spent some time with her at the hospital before. Fortunately, I went to see her the last time she was at home. And fortunately, I cooked her meals. Fortunately, I told her I will become a vet. Fortunately, my brother could go see her before he left for Poland.
They told me . . .
Grandma was waiting for me that day; she left after I spoke to her.
A-ma, I am your grandson and always will be; I am really fortunate to be your grandson. Thank you.
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